So many people are ashamed of their desires, and I think that’s just a fucking shame. In general, I advocate for a shame and guilt free lifestyle, because both shame and guilt are useless emotions that only serve to hamstring us in our journeys towards pleasure and an enjoyable life. If you’d like to hear the entire lecture, give me a call and I’ll tell you all the ways in which John Calvin and the Puritans have thoroughly fucked up our culture, but take it as read that I’m not a fan of the idea that all things which bring pleasure and joy to our lives should be scrubbed out of existence. We need pleasure and joy to make life bearable, and our sexual health is a big part of that! That’s why I’ve created a kink and fetish acceptance mantra that I want you to embrace, internalize, and use every day.

Kink And Fetish Acceptance

There is exactly one and only one time when I’ll tell you that your kink or fetish is unacceptable, and that’s when your kink or fetish causes distress or harm to anyone. If your desires are actively harming yourself, cut that out and find a healthier outlet for your needs. If your erotic desires lead you to hurt someone else? Likewise, cut that out and find a healthier way to explore what you need. Outside of that caveat? Go ham buddy. You want to stick your dick in a fresh apple pie and nut in it? Ala mode time! (maybe let it cool down before you slide your sausage in amongst the apples though.) Maybe you want to sniff panties and then wear them on your face. Perhaps you’re into the idea of being utterly controlled and feminized. Enjoy your perverted desires and do what brings you joy.

Mantras and Affirmations

Remember that I’ve taught you how to use a mantra and affirmation for best effect, and apply that lesson to your mantra use going forward. To summarize, you can choose to repeat your mantra quickly or you can take your time and slowly enunciate, but the goal is the same either way. You will repeat your mantra or affirmation for kink and fetish acceptance until the words become meaningless sounds in your mind, and instead the meaning of the words transcends conscious thought and becomes an internalized message. Easy, right?

Accept Your Desires

Get yourself comfortable, whether sitting or laying down. You can even surround yourself with any paraphernalia for your kink and fetish! Grab a fresh pie, some stockings, your wife’s panties, or whatever else it is that turns you on so much, and yet you feel so guilty about. As soon as the guilt or shame begins to rise in your mind, or whenever you notice that you’re not enjoying your kink and fetish, but instead worrying or agonizing over it, stop what you’re doing. We’re going to interrupt the shame spiral and replace it with the kink and fetish acceptance mantra. After you’ve repeated the mantra for a minute straight (use a timer if you need to), return to your masturbation, exploration of your fetish, or everyday life. Go right back to whatever it was you were doing when your shame started to hijack your mood.

Repeat This Mantra

I am not doing anything shameful or wrong.
I am not doing anything shameful or wrong.
My desires are good, pleasurable, and acceptable.
My desires are good.
My desires are pleasurable.
My desires are acceptable.
I am not doing anything shameful or wrong.
I am not doing anything shameful or wrong.
I am not doing anything shameful.
I am not doing anything shameful.
I am not doing anything wrong.
I am not doing anything wrong.

Embrace Your Desires

Remember that as long as you’re not hurting anyone with your kinks and fetishes, you’re not doing anything wrong! Use your masturbation affirmation to eliminate shame and guilt, and increase your kink and fetish acceptance. If you need deeper help with a mantra, trance, or further work to accept yourself, remember that I am a Life Coach, practitioner of meditation and Vajrayana, and can help you with all your erotic desires.

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Your Kink and Fetish Acceptance Mistress, Harper