There really is just something so satisfying as a Mistress about driving a needy submissive man to the very brink of orgasm, and then either denying him, or ruining him. But this isn’t about the benefits to your Mistress, this is about the benefits to you, as a man, of learning to enjoy and even revel in a ruined orgasm. Ruined orgasms make you better at so many things, and in so many ways. I want you to take this affirmation and mantra straight to heart, and live by it for at least a month. Live by these words and you’ll see the immense benefits to you! I guarantee that if you give me one month’s obedience, you’ll be an intensely changed man by the end.
Ruined Orgasms Make You Better
Most men live their lives in a haze of distracted mental energy and a lack of focus and drive. What causes you to be so intensely distracted? Lust, of course. The need of the flesh to continually seek out and experience the momentary and fleeting endorphin rush of an orgasm. I know how to alleviate that distracted lust and replace it with a heightened sense of purpose, drive, and a laser-like attention to the details that truly matter in life. A ruined orgasm gives you the same endorphin rush and fleeting relief from endless desires, while also helping you retain the very urges that drove you to masturbate in the first place.
Harness the Power of a Ruined Orgasm
Imagine that you could take yourself in hand, and refocus your attention through positive feedback, affirmations, and then couple that focus to your sex drive in a way that increases your productivity, as well as all your positive character traits? A combination of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, chaining behavior, positive feedback loops, and the very sex drive that currently steals your focus and drive, can push you to be a better lover, a better worker, and a better person in general. Here’s how it works…
Right now your brain craves dopamine and other endorphins. A fast and easy way to get those endorphins is to mindlessly jerk off. But that high is brief, wears off too soon, and leaves you craving more. The key is to link your orgasm to the achievement of a goal, and only reward yourself when you’ve reached your goal. But along the way you need positive feedback. Setting smaller goals and rewarding each of those with a ruined orgasm obtained through orgasm control allows you to do several things. You can have several ruined orgasms in a row, which provides you with a cumulative higher level of endorphins. You can motivate yourself to do tasks in stages, knowing that each step comes with a reward of pleasure and bliss. And you can arrange to complete multiple stages of your goal in a much shorter time frame, because ruined orgasms reduce your refractory period significantly.
Affirmations for Ruined Orgasms
The words we use to talk to ourselves are important, and can be deeply meaningful. Neurolinguistic programming (NLP) relies on changing the way your conscious and unconscious mind work together to create your worldview and attitude. Try these phrases and mantras while you masturbate to a ruined orgasm, and add some of your own phrases to affirm your goal that you’re working towards, too.
- I will earn my reward through dedicated effort.
- I can reach my goals by harnessing my pleasure.
- My pleasure leads me towards my goals.
- I am focused on my goals.
- My ruined orgasm makes me better.
For best effect, repeat your chosen mantra line repeatedly while masturbating, until the words seem to cease making sense. Conscious meaning should be overwritten by the repetition and intense focus on ruining your orgasm. Add your own phrases that reference whatever your goal is, but remember to keep them short, and as “I am” focused as possible. Statements of will and intent in the first person present tense are best for this sort of mental reprogramming.
Need help with your ruined orgasm mantra?
You can always call and ask me to help you craft deeply personalized mantras and affirmations for you to use, and even to help you learn to enjoy your ruined orgasm. Or perhaps you need help with the ‘ruined’ part of the project! Remember that if you really cum, you’ll waste all the effort and energy, and will need to start all over again from the beginning.
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Your Ruined Orgasm Mistress, Harper
Ruined orgasms really helped me. I could clean the pipes, but not feel the letdown, I could retain my sissy mindset without the guilt. And because you are still focused, you can push yourself into CE without backing out. That’s a big step.
I will try the specified mantra but I made this mantra. For me, mantras in general work better if I “own” them, so to speak, if they are a self-expression.
Either as is or perhaps minor modifications that come with time, I want to get good enough that someday I can do it on webcam. That’s quite a tall order, quite the goal, I do not have that kind of skill, but this blog does suggest being focused on goals…
This is my choice
This is my right
To ruin my orgasm
For Harper’s delight
This is my reward
This is my true pleasure
Harnessed through my effort
A treasure I can measure
Keep focused on the mark
My skill will make her wetter
But I do it for myself
Ruined makes be better
Hmmmm? Ruined orgasms make me better? Or maybe you’re just saying that because YOU just love ruining them! Let’s read on…
I am DEFINITELY LUST DISTRACTED RIGHT NOW!!!!!!! DESPERATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok, I’ll give you a gives the same endorphin rush. But will help me focus better? Does NPL only work on ourselves, when we use it on ourselves or does your talking/mantras at me in session have the same affect?
– My ruined orgasm makes me better
– My ruined orgasm is temporary
– My ruined orgasm is only a a small part of the bigger picture
– I will become a better person through ruined orgasm
– I seek out the ruined orgasm with Ms. Harper
– I am rewarded for my ruined orgasm by Harper
Like those?
I have been ruined and changed by the wonderful Ms. Harper forever!